Relationship with God is not about good works, as beneficial as good works may be! Trusting your church membership, your baptism, your confirmation, your sacraments, your good parents, your good works, your good deeds, is not saving faith. That's human religion and God will not accept it. Genuine belief (saving faith) relies on Jesus alone for salvation (without any human works being involved) because Jesus paid the penalty for your sins. God our heavenly Father wants you to know absolutely that He accepted Jesus' payment for your sins. To help you know that, God raised Jesus from the dead. That's your assurance that God is satisfied with the payment Jesus made. Now, if you want to be relationally connected to God you must be satisfied with Jesus' payment for your sins and stop trying to earn God's grace. Believe in Jesus as the only sin payment that God will accept. Then you work with Him, not to gain His favor, but out of love for Him and for people.